The Trouble with "They" or How the Orcs Will Defeat the Good Guys

 

Republicans are always looking for a way to make themselves look like the common folk, to convince the HVAC  guy, the painter, carpenter, electrician, tradesman the Democrats are "egg heads" who despise them for being common, and who think themselves superior to those who did not go to college.

In "What's The Matter with Kansas"  a father seethes about how East Coast liberal faculty judge his son inadequate because his SAT scores are insufficient to get him into Princeton, despite his many talents: The kid can and has rewired the house, rebuilt the family truck, put in a new engine and transmission, kayaked down a class three river, scaled sheer rocky ledges and placed third in the county wrestling tournament. 

He's right, of course:  the sacred meritocracy sees and too often rewards spurious or irrelevant merit, while missing real talent. 

And then, there is the question of pronouns, which encapsulates so easily the great gap between "liberal" college faculties and even public high school faculties, and the thinking of ordinary citizens who are not, as  Republicans from Ron DeSantis to Ted Cruz, delight in saying, "woke enough."

In his Boston Globe piece, a professor at Boston College, says, "I'm .. a straight white-cis-male...and I strive to make my classroom as inclusive as possible." So he goes around the room and has students introduce themselves using this code, i.e., "share their pronouns."  But, "as my students began filing out of the classroom, one lagged behind, visibly distraught. They asked if they could talk to me about the way I ran the introductions. They identified as non-binary and used they/them pronouns, but they felt exposed and vulnerable when I told them to share that. I didn't make them feel included. I made them feel unsafe."

Let me say, in all caps, neon lights: NOBODY SHOULD BE DISPARGED OR DEMEANED FOR THEIR SEXUALITY, SKIN COLOR OR ANY TRAIT THEY CANNOT CONTROL. WE OUGHT TO JUDGE PEOPLE ON THEIR BEHAVIOR.

Having said all this, there is no good argument for the 99.9% of the population who has grown up from age 18 months learning and speaking English with pronouns which designate male as he/him or she/her to shift over to new pronouns.

You can be kind and considerate of gender fluid or non binary folk without trying to speak new gender speak and that 0.1% among us can accommodate to not being referred to as "they."

Beyond that, no school, and especially colleges, private or public--and BU is private--should attempt to be "safe places." 

Students, straight or gay, binary or otherwise, should go to college to challenge their own assumptions, to find no safe harbor for their deeply held convictions about sexuality, religion, politics, ethics, morality or philosophy. A college which seeks to be a "safe" place in fact ceases to be a college at all, but does, in fact expose itself to be a place of indoctrination rather than examination.

I do wish that it were possible to discuss, dispassionately, analytically and thoroughly, the questions which gender fluidity, transgender medicine, gender dysphoria, heterosexuality and homosexuality open.  I gather, having had no personal or recent experience on a college campus or in a high school classroom, this is not an option. 

Even at medical conferences, a political correctness has become so thoroughly institutionalized, without adequate discussion, that objective discussion freed from moral invective is not currently possible.

But I do know one thing, when Ted Cruz says, "I talked to a student recently at one of our woke campuses who said she is required in every class to introduce herself and to give her pronouns...Well, I'm Ted Cruz and my pronoun is 'kiss my ass.'"

And no matter how loathsome you may find Ted Cruz, you know one thing, he will get applause and delighted approval with that line.

Republicans cannot win over voters with their policies: They want to kill Medicare, Social Security, destroy the planet, deny climate change, drive gas guzzling pick up trucks, mine coal, ban abortion, call the rescue of a mother with an ectopic "pregnancy" murder of a child, make Donald Trump President for Life, support Vladimir Putin in his atrocious war against Ukraine, eliminate the separation of church and state, make Christianity the national established religion, send non white immigrants away and generally create a new Third Reich in America--so they have to look for "cultural" divides to attract voters to their side.

And they have found one, served up to them by liberal Democrats who would rather be pure than powerful, who would rather lose every election for the next twenty years than part with their own self image of righteousness. They want to be pure, damn the consequences.

And when I say "they" I'm speaking of the plural.

Saying the Unspeakable: Words We Are Afraid to Say

 

Cohen v California

George Carlin's famous riff on the 7 deadly words you cannot say on the airwaves made its way to the Supreme Court. (FCC v Pacifica Foundation)

Mr. Carlin

"There are over 400,000 words in the English language," Carlin noted, "But these 7 words must be awfully bad: They'll grow hair on your palms, and, Heaven Forbid, make us leave Vietnam without honor."

But, before this, in another case, Cohen v California (1971) the lawyer for the defense managed to win his case by speaking the unmentionable word in the Supreme Court chambers, "Fuck the Draft"  the lawyer said. "That's what was printed on the jacket of the defendant, and it is his first amendment right to have it there."  Had the lawyer not had the courage to say the word "fuck" in front of the Supreme Court, it has been argued, he would have been conceding the case to the prosecution, that there are some words which are simply so horrible, they cannot be said in public.

Orthodox Jews of some sect believe the word for God, "Yaweh" or "YHWH" is so sacred it cannot or ought not be uttered by the lips of mere mortals.

I would submit there are words which we dance around with euphemisms like "the N word" or "the F word" which should be stated and written, not with * marks to replace the letters we all know, for fear of what? Of staining the purity of the women and children in the room?

Consider Randy Newman's wonderful, powerful song, "Rednecks" in which he calls out squeamish Whites who think themselves pure and holier than thou because they don't use the word "Nigger" all the while denying them jobs, freedom and opportunity.

Randy Newman

Now your northern Nigger's a negro
You see he's got his dignity
Down here we're too ignorant to realize
That the North has set the Nigger free

Yes he's free to be put in a cage
In Harlem in New York City
And he's free to be put in a cage
On the South Side of Chicago
And the West Side
And he's free to be put in a cage
In Cleveland
And he's free to be put in a cage
In East St. Louis
And he's free to be put in a cage
In Fillmore in San Francisco
And he's free to be put in a cage
In Roxbury in Boston
They're gatherin' 'em up from miles around

Keepin' the Niggers down!

They are too genteel to say the N word, but they are just fine with putting them in cages.

I would submit there are no words so sacred or so profane they ought never be spoken. That position is one of fear and feeble wokeness. 

That words are bleeped out in podcasts, which are actually subscription items, not on the airwaves which could be inadvertently tuned into by the father driving his child to school with the radio on, strikes me as an expression of faint heartedness and prissiness to the extreme. 

Use the words, to shock, as that lawyer did in the Supreme Court. He thought he would be bodily dragged out of the Court that day, but speaking the word allowed the justices to consider the actual fact, rather than suppressing truth and refusing to face the actual issue.

For the same reason, I believe Pornhub and other porn channels which show actual people having actual sex is a significant advance in sex education and a benefit to 21st century life and mental health.  Once sex is actually shown, Western Society does not dissolve; likely many children have watched, fascinated, and been unimpressed, after the 50th video and they realize: There, I've seen this secret thing, and it's not all that earth shaking--it's just sex.

Using * to replace offensive words is a snowflake move. It is born of fear and an effort to suppress expression and opinion. 

Use of words like "fuck" and "shit" are most often the result of inadequate vocabulary and are a sign of  mental immaturity.  They are verbal exclamation points, at best and a verbal/mental tick, at worst.

In "Billy Budd" the simple, pure Billy Budd strikes his superior officer, Claggart, because Budd is incapable of formulating his own defense against an unjust charge, verbally, so he strikes out with his fist. This is what so many vocabulary/verbally deficient people do when they throw "fuck you" or "you're a shithead" at their opponent. All this should be discussed openly. The resort to this sort of four letter rejoinder means you've already lost. That ought to be said, taught in school. Everyone should understand this. 

Another reason "The Wire" should be required viewing in school.

The Wire: Fourth Season

I'm not saying students in a formal setting, like a classroom, should be free to tell the teacher to "fuck off." The student should know there is a difference between private settings and public settings. The student should know the words he hears his parents' home will not be tolerated in a public classroom, and that this demand for different behavior is not the oppression of the White man but simply what constitutes discipline and rules. And he learns rules are important if he wants to guide his destiny to success rather than school expulsion and, ultimately, jail.

And Io think these lessons should be taught directly in inner city schools and discussed in suburban White majority schools, frankly and openly.

The Academy (Hampton, NH)

We should discuss in schools why some words are offensive and we should discuss why some dress is inappropriate in school but not necessarily at a nightclub.

This is part of what we should learn and what should be addressed, not taught, but openly explored, in public schools.